Friday, January 18, 2013

When a woman cheats...

When a woman cheats, and her husband finds out about it, he could think of suicide. 
My cousin did. He ended his life this morning. He was 30. 

I wouldn't want to go into details of how he killed himself, what he found out, what was done to comfort him beforehand, and everything else in between. It's just sad...

I don't want to fully judge the wife. Ultimately, it's still my cousin's decision to end his life. No one on earth can fully understand what's on his mind and heart. Perhaps, all the ill thoughts and feelings were  there -- pain and insult of being betrayed , anger, grief, hopelessness of the future even though they have 2 kids, inadequacy, fear that the wife will leave him, emptiness, depression, even guilt that he physically attacked his wife. 

I saw the wife. Her tears, her pain. I know it's more than just guilt. There's also love... There's also fear... 

I felt so sorry for their young children, one 6 and the other is 10 years old.  They're young but they feel both the agony of mom and dad. They heard them fighting and crying last night. They were the first ones to discover their dad silently killed himself in the room.  They know why dad was sobbing and throwing things until wee hours. They know mom was also badly hurt in her legs. They take turns, checking how's their mom, hugging her saying, "be strong" when the mom couldn't stop crying.    

Oh...please just pray for this family. Pray that they will be strengthened and comforted by God.  Pray also for my aunt... Thank you. 

   



3 comments:

Mirnita n Leenie said...

Sorry for your loss :(

Saw you on the blog roll

Leenie
www.undecidedmamas.com

Mirnita n Leenie said...

Thats so sad :( im so sorry. Its true...u never truly know what a person goes through.

Pau Sison said...

thanks. i don't know how to comfort the mother because we're not close. the most that i did was to hold her hand, as she walked to her kids, who were waiting to know what happened to their dad. i think the best that i could do is pray for their family.
thanks for dropping by.